By Christopher Walker Peter is sitting at his desk, its 10.00pm. His friends are out playing a game of netball, he had to cancel his place, there was just too much work. Mary is on another flight. She arrived home Friday afternoon and spent the weekend getting ready for the next flight. She broken out in blemishes on her face. Michael is single. He wasnt, but the relationship failed some years ago. Now he fears he might be single for life. Hes finding meeting a new lady, a total challenge. Natalie is exhausted. Shes been working on her business trying to get it off the ground for 5 years. Shes still just a highly paid employee, in fact, sometimes shes a lowly paid employee, exhausted and worried. Jane and David are perplexed. They both have amazing careers. Both successful, and the three children are wonderful and happy. But the relationship is on the rocks. Theyve done the therapy thing, but David hated it. Theyve tried all sorts of diversions, adventures, tricks and techniques to get their libido back to where it was, but its gone somewhere. It looks like the end, unless they can find the key. Silvia is 20kg overweight. It started after she had her first baby, those few kg that wouldnt go away. Now in her early 40s it is sticking like chewing gum. Obviously her metabolism is changing, and in spite of trying every diet she can get her hands on, shes still back where she started. What to do? Its getting to her, shes feeling depressed and frustrated. Danes business grew so fast he could hardly spend the money he was earning. It grew and grew. Even when he didnt want it to grow, it grew. He couldnt put a foot wrong. He bought a fancy car, a new watch, and another new watch, he had holidays and treated his girlfriends to gifts and fine lifestyle. He blames an economic downturn for taking the air out of the balloon, but now, Dane is trying to rebuild the old fortune he lost. Hes investing, but something that he once had is missing. People are not rushing to buy from him anymore. What is it? Marlene has a lung problem. She smokes and says she has tried to give it up but cant. The doctor thinks its a cancer and now, Marlene plans to sue the tobacco company for causing her to become addicted to smoking. Jerry has a knee problem. Its getting worse. All his life hes noticed that the heals of his shoes wore out on one side more than the other. It has been a nuisance to him mostly because he loves wearing thongs and sandals. He wears his running shoes until the tops fall apart, rarely does he consider that his running shoes are worn out when the innersole starts showing thought the underside of the shoe. Peter and Cheryl were together for 5 years. They had a beautiful relationship at first. Then, after Cheryl started Yoga classes they drifted apart. Cheryl accused Peter of being unconscious and violent in the way he approached life. She wanted peace and calm. Their children were disappointed when they split but happy to see the end of the conflict. Maureen has a guru. Maureen loves her guru. Maureen travels to see her guru. Maureen is single. Maureen doesnt want to be single. Maureen thinks her guru is wonderful. Her guru thinks Maureen is wonderful. Maureen is happy. But Maureen is single and unhappy about that. Peter is broke. He has no money in the bank and debt on his credit card. Pete spent allot of his money investing in self education and self development. Peter wanted to become a self development guru. So, he spent money on that. But he didnt follow the teaching of his self development teachers. He simply followed some of their teachings. Choosing to follow the teachings he liked and reject the teachings he didnt like. So, Peter ended up the way he started. With one exception, now he has less money. Gerard went to meditation class. He told everyone that his heart had been broken too many times. So he went to a meditation class to find peace. At that meditation class Gerard met a lady. They are in a relationship. The relationship is a dream come true because they dont argue. But Gerard finds himself interested in other women. He is angry at himself. He always thought he was very spiritual but he cant stop being interested in other women. Loraine is in therapy. She gets sad sometimes. Her therapist is working on her childhood and the dysfunction of her childhood. Larraine is still getting sad, but hopes it will change when she blames her father more. What do all these situations have in common? They are stories of hard work that has resulted from bad management. Situations that could have been avoided if people had managed better. Lets see how. Hard work is bad management Lets summarize Hard work is bad management Hard work is doing something you dont enjoy that takes too much time Mis management comes from small perspectives There are three things we all need to manage well Self, Relationship and Work Managing self is health Managing relationship is appreciation Managing work is prioritization, delegation and systematization. Another word for Manage is care. To care is to manage. Sometimes not doing what others wants is the best care. What you appreciate grows because people become as you treat them The best way to grow yourself is to appreciate others. There are two sides to everything. The wise person knows both. The leader knows both and focuses on the positive. Finally, most people deliberately sabotage their management Most people are not in love with who they are with and what they do But most important, most people want to change themselves, rather than be themselves To appreciate someone, you must not want to change them. See over for how.. There are three things we need to manage in our lives: Self Other Work If we mismanage any of these, they become hard work. We define hard work as not enjoyable or too time consuming. If we mismanage our relationship, for example, then we will have to spend allot of time in our relationship trying to fix it. But if we manage our relationship well, then the time we spend in our relationship will be enjoyable, positive and beautiful. If we mismanage our work, then it will consume more and more time. Finally, when there is no more time it can consume, mismanaged work will consume our energy and then our bank account. If we mismanage our self, we will self obsess. Self obsess means we become obsessed with ourselves. Then we become addicted. Addicted to food, sympathy, sleep, drugs computers. Self obsession means we think we are very important. More important than other people. So we dont care about others, we care about ourselves. Then we are mismanaging ourselves, we are only deluding ourselves. Good management means CARE. To care is to manage. If you care for your work, you will care for customers, clients, suppliers, staff. If you mismanage you will not care, you will only want to do the right thing because it makes money. Good management means care drives profit, instead of profit drives care. Good management in relationship means care. And because caring for others is really caring for self. (same topic) those who care for their relationship end up managing themselves well too. A person who cares about others will not feed them badly, not feed them excess of drinks and more. This is care. Sometimes care looks like it doesnt care. It looks cold or hard because it doesnt give a child what it wants. But care means to do the most healthy thing, not fulfill others expectation. Bad management results in breakdown. Nervous breakdown means bad management of the mind Health breakdown means bad management of mind and body Relationship breakdown means bad management of love Business breakdown means bad management of money Sales breakdown means bad management of customers. Tired at night means bad management of work. Hard work is the result of bad management. Something that is managed well does not require hard work. In fact, good management means that work is not work at all. It is a passion. Passion builds energy, work consumes it. Most, if not all bad management comes from a small perspective on things. If our perspective is narrow, we will manage for the present, in the moment. This is very bad management. We must manage for the future. Things become as you treat them. Sometimes we have to give up something today so we can have profit tomorrow. Sometimes we have to tolerate something today that will grow into tomorrow. Bad management comes from they lack of awareness of cumulative decisions. Some people think what happens today is the result of yesterdays thinking. But this is wrong. What happens today is the cumulative result of your whole life of thinking. What happens in your relationships today is the cumulative result of little things that have happened along the way. Little chips eventually carve marble. So in relationship, little quips, eventually carve the relationship. Bad management is negative quips. Good management is positive quips. There are two sides to everything. This is the first law of nature. The wise person knows it. They dont mismanage by having such a small perspective that there is only one side to a coin. Some people think they can find a perfect partner, and this is true, unless that perfect partner is only a good and not a bad person. Little perspectives on business, others, and self are aimed at narrowing the permissible limits. They look for half, and dismiss the other. This is bad management. But good management appreciates. Good management appreciates both the good news and the bad news. Good management is not deluded into thinking it can find a situation where there is no challenge. No, good management sees both sides to anything and everything. What you appreciate grows. Good management is to appreciate things. Make them bigger. You make people bigger by appreciating them. You make businesses bigger by appreciating its assets. You make relationships bigger by appreciating how much you can do together as a couple (rather than as two individuals) and you make yourself bigger by appreciating life, and the gifts you have. You depreciate all of the above by trying to change it. Good management means to get more done in less time. If you are spending more time to get more results, this is bad management. We all rise to our level of incompetence. Spending too much time at work, at home, on self, in order to get more results is the opposite to creativity. It is an old fashioned idea that if you work harder things get better. And when picks and shovels were the only tools, there may have been a grain of truth. Now, creativity means, How do I do more in the same time, or even more in less time. The final word. Most people deliberately mismanage things. Consciously, we mismanage our time because if we had more time we wouldnt know what to do with it or, we would have to spend it doing something we dont like. Many, many, many people spend excessive hours at work because they hate their home life. And many people spend way too much time alone because they hate their relationship or their job. Many people are single because they self obsess with themselves and their own company. But love does not flourish in ones. One bird is not love. It is extinction. Live with Spirit Chris Chris Walker is a world leading change agent and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, business, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chriss work and journeys to Nepal, visit www.innerwealth.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Christopher_Walker http://EzineArticles.com/?Hard-Work-Is-Bad-Management—Especially-in-Love&id=311186 paycheck stub sample payday loan companies personal loan for bad credit online home equity loans
